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Judith Kay Tobin (nee Clugston) passed away peacefully on January 14, 2023 surrounded by her beloved family. She is survived by her husband of 59 years, Michael J. Tobin, her children Kate Green, Pat Tobin (Kati), Michael Tobin-Mapleson (Peter), Maggie Tobin (Ian Macdonald), Libbie Tobin (Kathleen Ostar), Jennie Kazel (Scott), Dan Tobin (Rebecka). And her grandchildren Spencer Green, Jill Tobin, Molly Tobin (Forrest), Abby Tobin, Paul Tobin, Rose Tobin-Mapleson, Erin Tobin-Mapleson, Will Headley, Hayden Headley, Izze Ostar, Hillary Ostar, Lindsay Ostar, Ellie Kazel, Ben Kazel, Jimmy Kazel, Annabelle Tobin, Michael Tobin and Emmaline Tobin, sister Marty Dunlavey and many nieces, nephews, cousins and in-laws.
Judy was raised in northeast Indiana by her parents, Rosemary and David Clugston, who predeceased her. She loved nothing more than sharing her childhood memories of growing up a Hoosier with her sister, Marty. After moving to Erie, Pennsylvania as a teenager, she returned to her birth state to attend Purdue University and graduated in 1962 with a degree in teaching.
She married Mike in August 1963 and they started their family in New York City, during which time Judy mothered their first three young children while Mike served in the U.S. Army in Vietnam. Judy and Mike settled in Rochester, New York in 1968 to raise their seven children. She loved the people at St Boniface parish and immersed herself in church activities; producing numerous children’s concerts each year, running vending for bingo nights, and leading the brownie troops. In 1979, Judy and Mike moved to Honeoye Falls, becoming pillars of the community they called home for over 40 years. In retirement, Judy’s favorite place to be was their home on Cayuga Lake. It is here that her love for gardening, the water, and family absolutely flourished. Her flower beds were admired by all. Swimming with her grandchildren was her favorite pastime. And hosting her family was her ultimate joy.
Judy was the opposite of “Jack of all trades and master of none.” Her intellect and work ethic led her to be a master many times over. Not only was she a phys. ed. teacher and an accountant, she also waited tables, delivered newspapers, owned and operated a successful landscaping business, owned and operated a successful tie-dye company, and was Mike’s legal assistant and office manager. It continued with her hobbies as she was a skilled pianist, sewer and knitter, reader, writer, crossword puzzler, softball player, card player, cook, gardener, mathematician and philanthropist. Judy was particularly passionate about helping the less fortunate. Her service ranged from opening her home to unwed mothers, giving a person in need a ride home from the grocery store, to taking teenagers to St. Josephs’ House to serve meals to the homeless, working as a Literacy Volunteer, providing meals and gifts to families in need during the holidays through Spiritus Christi, assisting in providing education to children in Haiti, and volunteering as a dispatcher to organize rides for seniors up until her final days.
Of Judy’s many gifts, caring for her family was by far her strongest. She became “Queenie” upon welcoming her first grandchild in 1991 and spent the next 30 years of her life dedicated to the health and happiness of her 18 grandchildren. Simply put, it cannot be overstated how much her grandchildren adored her. Her generosity was unmatched, and she never missed an opportunity to go on an “adventure” where laughter and fun were at the forefront. Holidays were her favorite time of year because it centered around her family. Her infectious laugh and excitement included talent shows, poetry readings, and crazy gifts. Song sheets were her calling card as she loved to sing and lead sing-alongs. Music was a must at all gatherings with Judy joyously leading the way on the piano. Judy left a beautiful mark on this world, and she will be missed beyond measure.
Judy’s funeral service will be March 18th at 10:00 AM at Spiritus Christi, 121 North Fitzhugh Street, Rochester, 14614. Reception following the service in the church hall. In lieu of flowers, the family would appreciate donations to Spiritus Christi, 121 N. Fitzhugh Street, Rochester, NY 14614 or St Joseph’s House, 402 South Ave Rochester, NY 14620 or St Joseph’s Neighborhood Center, 417 South Ave Rochester, NY 14620.