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Brian G. Carley, 57, passed away suddenly on October 13, 2023. He is preceded in death by his parents, William “Bill” Carley, and Jean Carley. He will be sadly missed by his wife, Tricia; his daughters, Jillian, and Cianna; and his five siblings, Scott (Kathy) Carley, Renee Benjamin (James), Janine Miceli (Kurt), Eric (Monica) Carley, and Elise Carley (Bill).


Brian was born in Henrietta and grew up and attended schools in Henrietta, New York. On August 22, 1998, he married his best friend and the love of his life, Tricia DiCesare. Together 33 years, they recently celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary in August.


Tricia and Brain raised their daughters gracefully. Brian loved and adored Jillian and Cianna with all his heart. He was so proud to witness them both succeed in life; he watched as Jillian bloomed into a teacher and Cianna, a soon-to-be college graduate. He orchestrated and was deeply involved in all their accomplishments, and his presence will be greatly missed at all the ones to come. 


Brian was an extremely dedicated man in all areas of life. His passions included Eastside Little League, where he was the Softball Commissioner and a coach for many years. After Eastside, Brian continued his coaching career through several other teams, including the travel softball teams Cobras and the Lady Lions. He was also involved in his daughters’ elementary school, St. John Neumann (now named St. Ambrose Academy), creating a sense of community through building their first playground, organizing events, and coaching various programs including Lego League and Odyssey of the Mind. He voluntarily formed and ran several committees involving fundraising, activism, and school improvement. Once his daughters went to Siena Middle School and Aquinas Institute, he continued to volunteer to coach various sports teams through the schools, including both softball and volleyball. 


Professionally, Brian was a skilled craftsman, serving as a cabinetmaker at Jeffrey Ellis Carl Cabinetmakers. Some of his most prized pieces include a recent project, the Howard Hanson recital hall at the George Eastman School of Music that was acoustically designed with beveled slates to optimize the sound of classical instruments. Brian’s work can also be seen in many hospitals, banks, professional office buildings, and restaurants throughout the Northeast United States. He also used his talents to create personalized works of art for family and friends. Many Rochester homes are graced with his beautiful creations.


Brian truly was filled with so much life and energy; his mission was to include everyone in whatever he was doing and, in the process, make them laugh hysterically. He loved attending RIT hockey games and watching the Buffalo Bills. He enjoyed traveling, as much as possible, with his wife, family, and friends. 


His favorite places in the world were The Bahama Islands and Disney World. His passion for travel included being a Disney trips personal planning expert, planning over 50 trips for others. Brian loved attending live music events with his wife and friends, kayaking and boating with family and friends, and throwing parties for various occasions, especially his favorite holiday – Halloween. To sum up, Brian was the party! 


He touched the lives of so many people and will be dearly missed by all. A devoted husband, father, friend and co-worker, Brian filled our world with his love. He was so full of life it is difficult to imagine him any other way. Brian did not take up space in the world; he filled it. For years to come, he would want his infectious energy and positivity to continue to be shared. 


To honor and celebrate his life, please attend his calling hours at Miller Funeral Home in Henrietta, New York, on Tuesday, October 24th, from 4-8 PM as well as his funeral service on Wednesday, October 25th at 10 AM at Miller Funeral Home in Henrietta, New York.


Donations in his memory may be made to St. Ambrose Academy, at 31 Empire Boulevard, Rochester NY, 14609.

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