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It is with great sadness that we are announcing the passing of our beloved mother, grandmother and friend. Surrounded by her family and friends, Patricia Mae Oberdorf, passed away peacefully on January 29, 2022 at the age 82. She was predeceased by her mother, Mabel Kathleen Coolidge and father, Howard Frank Coolidge.For her maiden name was Patricia Coolidge, she was married two times during her life. She took on the names of Patricia DeFrain and Patricia Oberdorf. She is survived by her six children: (oldest) Cheryl A. DeFrain, John H. DeFrain, Debbie S. DeFrain, Tammy L. DeFrain, Kimberly A. DeFrain (son-in-law) Keith Taylor and (youngest) Sylvia A. Oberdorf. She leaves behind three grandchildren: Crystal M. Taylor, Harley T. DeFrain and Amanda J. Tydings and one very beloved great-grandchild: Mia Mae Shriver. Close life long friends and colleagues with some to mention: Linda and Bill, Lori, Glen, Charlene, Kay and Mrs. Malverna. Patricia was born on October 2, 1939 and during her life she endured so many names that were used to address her. Her parents called her Patty, and everyone who knew her thereafter knew her as Patricia, Ms. Pat, Mom, Mommy, Granny-grunt, Grandma, Nana and G.G. She was a great mother even to those who didn’t have one to call their own. She did the very best she could for all that knew her, knew that she raised all of her children pretty much by herself with a lot of help from the community of her local church Asbury First Methodist Church, as well as some additional Rochester NY facilities throughout the years. Patricia worked as a professional cleaner throughout Rochester and surrounding communities for 50+ years, retiring at the age of 76 years old. She was a dedicated grandmother, one of the very best anyone could ask for and she was a loyal friend. Patricia was that woman that would send you cards, goofy funny newspaper cutouts just to say hi or just to make you smile. I know for sure her oldest daughter Cheryl inherited that caring quality from her for she too always sends cards and letters just to say hi and just to make you smile. Patricia would call you 5-10 times a day and it never got old, there was always something to talk about from the days episode of General Hospital to the assorted crazy topics that came to mind. There were no topics you couldn’t discuss, she was an open box and she told it how it was. Her daughter Kim and her spoke almost all of those 5-10 times daily, 7 days a week. Those daily conversational opportunities are definitely going to be missed!! She was your everyday in every way loving, caring, selfless, outgoing, funny, witty, charismatic, crazy-off the wall goof ball, jokester, and prankster kinda gal that just brightened up our world and the world of those around her. She was the life of every party! Her attention was always set on being the one to make people laugh. From written skits, poetic songs with dances to some of the most crazy, witty and absolutely outlandish prop filled costume get-ups you could ever even imagine. Patricia had her time dressing up as an old man undercover who actually did a steak-out with a friend. She dressed up as a baby at her grand-daughter baby shower, a fairy god-mother at her great- granddaughters 1st birthday party, she was Santa clause for Christmas and also a combination of a Christmas tree/present wrapped in actual plug-in lights. For memorial day, she dressed up as a hot dog with mustard and sang the “Oscar Myers” wiener song while dancing around the backyard. Pat had her heydays of dressing up like Dr. Penis, a condom, a gorilla, even Tina Turner with the bellbottom outfit/wig and microphone. She dressed up as her favorite singer Cher, a flasher and many many more! She was the perfect prankster especially when it came to monumental birthdays. She’s the one who with no fear or care in the world when it came to pulling out the strippers, denture creams, chattering teeth and over hill coffee mugs and party hats. That was Ms. Pat and we all loved that about her! Fearless with no Regrets. Almost every Christmas she would choose an individual to target with a gag gift and the cameras had to be out. The laughs were endless and so are the memories. Ms. Pat loved her garage sales, flea markets, her thrift stores and junking of any kind! Literally she would choose a day thrifting out with her friends and family over doing anything else under the sun! She loved to travel, especially with her youngest daughter Sylvia and her favorite place to go was New York City. She loved the Chippendales, the strippers, toy parties and gambling at the casinos. Pat loved her catalogs and magazines like US and People, especially ones with recipes. She loved General Hospital, The Price is Right, Golden Girls, Grumpy Old Men, Dirty Dancing, Teen Mom, Fifty Shades of Gray and Saturday Night Fever. Pretty much any show that gave her spirit more life. She recently got into Married at First Sight, 90 Day Fiancé, Housewives of ATL and she always liked Jersey Shore. She even had the opportunity to meet Pauly D. Pat loved her grits with cheese, open faced Ruebens, chocolate turtle ice cream from Brusters, Kimmy’s lasagna, Crystal’s Brussel sprouts, Cheryl’s hot pecan dip, Tammy’s sweet potatoes and no one can forget that she LOVED her pepper and she put it on everything. Some of the things that she used to always say was:
•”You kids are giving me ajitah”•”Don’t sweat the small stuff” •”Get along” “Stop the commotion” •”Treat people how you want to be treated” •”Keep up with your health”
Some of her proudest moments:
- •Being able to see all of her grand children graduate from high school.
- •Becoming a Great Grandmother and with that she had 3 goals before her great grand daughter was born. One was to see her born…CHECK Second was to see her walk…CHECK Lastly was to see her attend Kindergarten…CHECK
- •Not having to bury anyone of her children or grandchildren.
The Broken Chain Poemby: Ron Tranmer We little knew the day that God was going to call your name. In life we loved you dearly, In death we do the same. It broke our hearts to lose you But you didn’t go alone. For part of us went with you The day God called you home. You left us peaceful memories. Your love is still our guide, And though we cannot see you You are always at our side. Our family chain is broken and nothing seems the same, but as God calls us one by one the chain will link again.
A Memorial Service will be held at the Asbury First United Methodist Church, 1050 East Avenue on Saturday February 12th at 11AM.
In lieu of flowers, contributions and donations can be made in memory of Patricia Oberdorf to either one of the foundations below:
Shriners Hospital for Children:
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